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【題目】 Family fights are never pleasant. Whether you are dealing with a loud sister or a stubborn mom or dad, the situation can be bad. At least that’s what we have learned to expect.

What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts could be turned into opportunities to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?

Family fighting is, on one level, about power. Someone is telling someone else what to do. In a short moment, emotions can be brought out and the fight is on. You can go down that old road or you can try something different.

In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood. People raise their voices and shout at each other because they’re not being listened to. It’s totally unconscious. You want your mom or dad to listen and understand. But you always seems to forget the person you’re fighting with has the same need to be listened to. So if you can put aside your need for a few minutes, the situation will change quickly. Give the other person some time to express his or her feelings, and you will earn your turn to be listened to.

And while you are listening, you have to listen for the right information. The best way to do this in emotional situations is to forget most of the words because many people can’t express what they are feeling with words alone, especially when they are upset.

But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time.

This way, everyone will feel respected and listened to, even when there is conflict. Emotions will be understood and respected, and it will bring your family closer together.

【1】From the first 3 paragraphs, we can know that _______.

A.people had better avoid family fights

B.family members fight to control each other

C.family fights can be changed into something positive

D.when family members fight, it’s worse as they know each other’s weakness

【2】Intheauthor’sopinion,thekeytodealingwithfamilyfightsisto_______.

A.satisfy the need to be listened to first

B.make sure that you’re the first to be listened to

C.pay no attention to what others say in emotional situations

D.stop quarrelling when you feel you are giving orders

【3】Whenthesituationgetsoutofcontrol,it’sbestto_______.

A.wait for a suitable moment to speak

B.let the other person express their feelings

C.work on a written agreement first

D.move on to problem solving

【4】The main purpose of this article is to _______.

A.tell readers that family fights are not that bad

B.teach reader how to listen in family fights

C.remind readers to show respect in family fights

D.give advice on dealing with family fights

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】A

【3】A

【4】D

【解析】

本篇分析家庭斗爭和沖突的成因和解決的方法，紛爭中，人們都需要被傾聽和理解，解決家庭紛爭最首要的是滿足被傾聽的需要；情況失控時要等合適的時間再說；家庭紛爭解決得當可以讓家人更親密。

【1】推理判斷題。根據(jù)前三段的內容，作者講述了家庭斗爭和沖突可以變成使家人更親密的機會，當每個人都感到更深切的關懷時，問題就可以解決了；由此推斷家庭的紛爭可以有積極的一面，故選C。

【2】細節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)第四段“In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood.”在任何紛爭中，你都需要被傾聽和理解，可知解決家庭紛爭最首要的是滿足被傾聽的需要；故選A。

【3】細節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)第六段“But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later” 但如果情況開始失控，最好冷靜下來，把問題留到以后再說，可知情況失控時要等合適的時間再說，故選A。

【4】主旨大意題。本篇分析家庭斗爭和沖突的成因和解決的方法，故選D。

本篇是閱讀單選，考查細節(jié)理解推理判斷和主旨歸納能力。解答前要先快速閱讀全文，理解大意；再閱讀題干，正確理解題干的要求；然后回歸原文，尋找有用信息作答；本篇題型設定題2、3是細節(jié)理解題，解答時要在原文中找出題干包含的信息部分，這樣可以正確地捉住有效信息，確保答題的準確性；題4是主旨歸納題，要全面了解全文的信息，避免做片面的解答，解答完，要通讀全文，核實答案和原文信息是否一致。