Question

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
These pseudo(虛假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not turn to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling(糟蹋) other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking away the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
【小題1】If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.

A．the child may find the apology easier to accept

B．the child may feel that he should apologize to her mother

C．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

D．she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized

【小題2】According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means”_______”

A．You have good reason to get upset

B．I apologize for hurting your feelings

C．I’m wrong for making you upset

D．I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame

【小題3】We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.

A．their ages should be taken into consideration

B．parents should be patient and tolerant

C．parents need to set them a good example

D．the difficulties involved should be ignored

【小題4】It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _________.

A．not necessary among family members

B．a(chǎn) sign of social progress

C．not as simple as it seems

D．a(chǎn) matter calling for immediate attention

Answer 1

【小題1】B
【小題2】D
【小題3】A
【小題4】C 

解析試題分析：【小題1】B 細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)第二段what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.說(shuō)明這樣的虛假道歉會(huì)讓接受道歉的認(rèn)為他們應(yīng)該向你道歉，故B正確。
【小題2】D 推理題。根據(jù)第三段2,3行“I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.說(shuō)明道歉的一放認(rèn)為自己不應(yīng)該受到責(zé)備。故D正確。
【小題3】A 推理題。根據(jù)最后一段所舉的三個(gè)例子可知不同的年齡的孩子對(duì)于道歉都有不同的理解，故我們要考慮到年齡的因素。
【小題4】細(xì)節(jié)題：從最后一段But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry可知答案是C。
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點(diǎn)評(píng)：道歉是很重要的一種品質(zhì)，但是很多人的道歉都是無(wú)效的。文章告訴我們什么樣的道歉是虛假的，什么樣的道歉是無(wú)效的。以及在教育孩子道歉的時(shí)候，要考慮到孩子的年齡。
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