Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is often the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth. One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age….” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “l(fā)ong, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”

Kids reflexively(條件反射地) shut down in the face of a lecture. Their eyes glaze over, and they don’t register any incoming information. Listen to 13-year-old Sarah describe her least favorite times with her mom and dad. “First, they scream. Then comes the ‘We’re so disappointed’ speech. Then the ‘I never did that to my parents’ lecture begins. After that, even if they realize how ridiculous they sound, they never take it back.”

Lines like “When you have children of your own, you’ll understand” have been seriously said by parents since time immemorial. But many of our expert parents, like Bobby, a registered nurse and mother of three, feel that by falling back on clichés(陳詞濫調(diào))to justify our actions, we weaken our position.

Since kids are creatures of here and now, the far-off future has no relevance to them. Therefore, good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language: ‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions(監(jiān)護(hù)).’”

Betty, who lives in Missiouri, uses an indirect approach. “I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information. Then they never think I’m preaching(布道).”

This really helped when Betty’s kids began driving. Instead of constantly repeating “Don’t drink; don’t speed,” she would talk about articles in the paper and express sympathy for the victims of a car crash. Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation. She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions---especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them.

1.The purpose of the passage is to _________.

A.compare two ways of parents` communicating with their kids

B.explain why kids won’t listen to their parents

C.give parents advice on how to communicate with their kids

D.introduce kids` reaction to the communication between them and their parents

2.Which of the following statements is NOT right?

A.Kids won’t listen to their parents because they think what their parents say is boring.

B.Kids don’t like any discussion at all.

C.Some kids think their parents should apologize when they are wrong.

D.Many kids think they have no right to express their own opinions.

3. What does the underlined word in the first paragraph mean?

A.討論             B.對話             C.插話             D.獨(dú)白

4.Which of the following topic may appeal to kids?

A.Something related to kids’ present life

B.Kids possible life in the future

C.Parents` own experience

D.What parents have done to their own parents.

5.In order to make kids follow their advice, parents should______.

A.tell their kids to listen carefully

B.a(chǎn)rouse kids’ desire to express themselves.

C.list out as many examples as possible

D.set out their warnings directly

 

【答案】

1.C

2.B

3.D

4.A

5.B

【解析】

試題分析:本文敘述了現(xiàn)在一些孩子不愿接受父母的一些命令,還有一些獨(dú)白的演講,本文給出了一些建議,關(guān)于父母如何與孩子進(jìn)行溝通。

1.主旨大意題。根據(jù)綜觀全文給父母的建議關(guān)于如何與孩子溝通,故選C。

2.細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information.孩子喜歡討論,故選B。

3.詞義猜測題。根據(jù)that often starts with “When I was your age….”可以猜出這是獨(dú)白,故選D。

4.細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)談?wù)撘恍┯嘘P(guān)孩子的現(xiàn)在的生活,故選A。

5.細(xì)節(jié)理解題。根據(jù)She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions激發(fā)孩子的欲望來表達(dá)自己,故選B。

考點(diǎn):教育類短文閱讀。

點(diǎn)評:主旨大意題主要是測試考生對一篇文章或一段文字的深層理解程度及在速讀中準(zhǔn)確把握文章大意的能力,一般針對某一語段或某一語篇主題標(biāo)題或目的設(shè)題。做這類題,關(guān)鍵在于抓住文章要旨。

 

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