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【題目】Question: My 14-year-old son is very disrespectful to my husband and me, and we don’t know what to do about it. We tell him to get home before dark, but he is often late, and then we wait, worry and sometimes get close to calling the police. And so what happens when he does come home? We have a big argument. Can you help us?

Answer: Your son should, of course, come in before dark, not because you say so, but because it is his responsibility and because you would worry about him if he didn’t come home when he promised. 【1】______________ Just tell him that he has to be home on time if he wants to go out next time — and that this is his choice, not yours.

His disrespect is part of a bigger issue. Your son desires independence because the young always do when they hit puberty (青春期), somewhere between 13 and 16. New hormones (荷爾蒙), a new ability to think in abstractions and a new need to pull away from their parents all contribute to this desire. 【2】________________

Your son may also be acting up because your discipline hasn’t kept up with his growth. A child hates to be corrected when his parents use the same words and same tone of voice they used when correcting him a year ago. 【3】_________

He won’t even argue with you too much, as long as you listen to his rants (咆哮) and consider his reasons when you have to say no. These are all signs that you know that your respect is as important to him as his respect is to you. 【4】_________ This doesn’t accomplish anything and is bound to worsen your relationship.

Your child not only needs your respect, he also needs you to encourage his dreams, no matter how strange they are. 【5】__________ Now is the time to lower your expectations, give as few orders as possible (but stick to the ones you give), pay more attention to your son’s good behavior than his bad, and give twice as many smiles as you get.

A. But don’t worry.

B. He wants you to react to him at the age he is today.

C. But don’t argue about it.

D. If you don’t listen and consider, he won’t hear a word you say.

E. So boys and girls are so eager to spread their wings.

F. They need your sympathy for him when things go wrong, rather than fix them or tell him what he should have done.

G. He is growing physically, mentally, emotionally and even morally.

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】E

【3】B

【4】D

【5】F

【解析】

試題分析:本文針對一個對父母很不尊敬的兒子的問題，提出了一些解決方案。

【1】C考查對上下文的理解和推理判斷能力。根據(jù)just tell him that he has to be home on time if he wants to go out next time — and that this is his choice, not yours.可知不要跟孩子爭辯什么，而是要讓他想清楚這是他自己的選擇，C選項But don’t argue about it.，符合，故選C。

【2】E考查對上下文的理解和推理判斷能力。根據(jù)New hormones (荷爾蒙), a new ability to think in abstractions and a new need to pull away from their parents all contribute to this desire. 可知男孩子和女孩子在青春期時因為荷爾蒙的影響會變得比較叛逆，想要脫離父母的掌控，E選項So boys and girls are so eager to spread their wings. ，符合，故選E。

【3】B考查對上下文的理解和推理判斷能力。根據(jù)Your son may also be acting up because your discipline hasn’t kept up with his growth. 可知這個孩子的行為很有可能是因為你對他的態(tài)度沒有根據(jù)他的年齡的變化而改變，還是當(dāng)他小孩子造成的，B選項 He wants you to react to him at the age he is today.，符合，故選B。

【4】D考查對上下文的理解和推理判斷能力。根據(jù) These are all signs that you know that your respect is as important to him as his respect is to you.可知你也要尊重他，如果你不聽他的話，他也不會聽你的話，D選項If you don’t listen and consider, he won’t hear a word you say.，符合，故選D。

【5】F考查對上下文的理解和推理判斷能力。根據(jù)Your child not only needs your respect, he also needs you to encourage his dreams, no matter how strange they are.可知孩子需要你的鼓勵，需要你在他遭到挫折時的安慰，F(xiàn)選項They need your sympathy for him when things go wrong, rather than fix them or tell him what he should have done.，符合，故選F。