13.Everyone needs to be safe,loved and to have a sense of belonging.These are inborn and natural basic needs.In an effort to have these needs satisfied,many of us tend to please others.And it works for a while.We find that we experience less conflict with others,but the conflict within ourselves grows.Saying"no"produces feeling of guilt and saying"yes"brings anger.
My father was in the military,so we moved frequently.Being shy,I didn't make friends.What's more,I grew up in a household where grades,image and how others saw our family were very important.In our household a"C"was unacceptable,a"B"should have been an"A"and an"A"meant the lesson was too easy.I was too skinny,my sister was too fat and my brother's lips and ears were too big for his tiny head.
To stop pleasing others is easier said than done.It's a long process,one in which I am consistently working to perfect.The turning point for me came shortly after I got married.The very first thing we did to end the cycle of catering to others was develop our own identity as individuals and then as a couple.And then we developed a strong set of core(核心)values and a vision for our future.The third and one of the most valuable things we did during this process was develop our own personal influence on others and we valued deeply the opinions of the wiser and more successful people around us.
Besides,we should understand that sometimes helping people actually hurts them.Struggle is necessary to success.Struggle strengthens character,making people determined.So sometimes allowing people to struggle is the best thing you can do for them.
32.How are we likely to feel when pleasing others?B
A.Satisfied.
B.Angry.
C.Happy.
C.Guilty.
33.What can we infer from the author's experience as a child?D
A.He grew up doing a lot of housework.
B.It was hard for him to adjust to the moving life.
C.He realized the value of opinions from others.
D.His parents had great expectations of the children.
34.What is the third paragraph mainly about?B
A.What steps the author took to go on pleasing others.
B.How the author stepped out of the cycle of pleasing others.
C.Why the author further developed his values and character.
D.When the author turned to others for their valuable opinions.
35.What does the author suggest doing?C
A.Helping others without delay.
B.Refusing to help others.
C.Thinking twice before offering help.
D.Leaving someone alone in trouble.
分析 本文講述了我小時候因為家里管束嚴格,而總是取悅他人,后來我成婚之后一直努力逃出這個怪圈,形成了自己的價值觀.
解答 32.B.細節(jié)理解題.由第一段Saying"no"produces feeling of guilt and saying"yes"brings anger可知,順應他人取悅他人的時候我們會產(chǎn)生憤怒,故選B.
33.D.理解推斷題.由第二段In our household a"C"was unacceptable,a"B"should have been an"A"and an"A"meant the lesson was too easy可知在我的家庭中,表現(xiàn)差和表現(xiàn)一般都是不行的,我們必須做到A,可推知我的父母對我期望很高,故選D.
34.B.理解推斷題.由第三段To stop pleasing others is easier said than done.It's a long process,停止取悅他人說起來容易做起來難,它是一個長期的過程,可知這段內(nèi)容主要在講我是如何停止取悅他人的,故選B.
35.C.理解推斷題.由最后一段we should understand that sometimes helping people actually hurts them.Struggle is necessary to success我們應該明白,有時候幫助別人實際上傷害別人,困難是成功所必須的,可知作者建議我們幫助他人之前要三思,故選C.
點評 在做閱讀理解時,考生可快速閱讀短文,通讀測試題,明確考察點,在對應細讀,加快做題速度.有時間還可以復查校對答案.